When we abandon our true selves in order to keep the affections of the other, we do so in the expectation of getting something in return. This is a recipe for misunderstanding and resentment.
“Immature people falling in love destroy each other’s freedom, create a bondage, make a prison. Mature persons in love help each other to be free, they help each other to destroy all sorts of bondages. And when love flows with freedom there is beauty.” Osho
From childhood our self-responsibility is usurped and replaced with a sense of responsibility for others and their feelings, and we lose connection with our spontaneous natural being. Our love relationships in later life reflect this, becoming a set of mutual compromises that feed our illusions of security and permanence. This kind of relationship may appear to work well in terms of success in the world, but once the honeymoon is over, the question arises for many “Is this all there is?”
A really alive relating, based on an overflow of being-love is an ongoing expansion of awareness and freedom. Unless we are growing in this way our love will stagnate and become a prison.
By deeply accepting ourselves and the other as we are, we transform the irritations and petty grievances of life into opportunities for growth. We become aware of our own blind spots – the places where we have yet to shine light on our unconscious habits and expectations.
In an atmosphere of trust and acceptance this session will support you to move to a state of presence in the here and now. You will experience the confidence and self-trust this brings and discover ways of communicating that enhance growth and freedom in your relating.
“Love happens only when you are mature. You become capable of loving only when you are a grown-up. When you know that love is not a need but an overflow – being-love or gift-love – then you give without any conditions.” Osho
This session is open to individuals and couples.