As children we develop a series of false identities or masks in response to the expectations and projections of those we depend on for survival. Over time these become autonomous and start to run our lives. We move between them with little or no awareness, triggered by external events.
Wounding happens when we are not seen and loved unconditionally as children. The wounded child is a powerful and convincing identification which can keep us stuck in defense mode and, when we are triggered, we start to live out our childhood movie.
We can learn to recognize and accept this when it is happening and, instead of remaining stuck, begin to heal the inner child by giving it the love and reassurance it needs – from our own adult resources.
Reclaiming and healing the inner child allows us to regain the spontaneous joy and wonder of life. It is the essential journey of life to become a child again healed, whole and awake.
“Parents, because of their own investment – business, politics, religion, philosophy – are less interested in the potential of the child. They are more interested in how to mold the child so that he fits in their world, becomes respectable in their world, is not an outcast, is not a misfit. All this arises out of good intentions, but the result is not good. It is almost slaughtering the child, destroying, killing him. Most of his potential will always remain only potential. He will never be even aware what treasures he has brought with his life. He will die and those treasures will remain unopened.” Osho.