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Coaching Session

When a life issue arises, we may find ourselves retreating from it, pretending it is not there and burying our head in the sand; or we may find ourselves desperately trying to solve it, but getting more and more entangled because we can’t see clearly what is going on. The wonderful truth is that life issues exist only because of this lack of clarity and the solution is much simpler than we think.

As Osho explains:

“This is the most important thing to understand about life-problems: they are created by your unclarity of vision. So, it is not that first you see them clearly, then you find the solution, and then you try to apply the solution. No, the process is not that long; the process is very simple and short. The moment you can see your life-problem clearly, it dissolves. It is not that you have now found an answer that you will apply, and someday you will succeed in destroying the problem. The problem existed in your unclarity of vision. You were its creator.”

 

The purpose of the session is to support you while you feel your way around the identifications and obsessions that cloud your vision, feel them, see them clearly, and allow them to dissolve in the light of awareness. This is a skill that you can carry with you and use whenever your life feels complicated and confusing.

To find the space of clarity and learn how to return to it until it becomes your unshakeable reality is the spiritual journey.

“Use the clarity to look into problems and try not to change things; just try to accept them. Go on creating more and more clarity – and that is the only change that there is, that is the only mutation. Go on moving higher and higher on the wave of clarity and awareness. As you go higher a different world comes to your vision. The world remains the same, but your clear eyes now give you a different picture, and by and by everything falls in line. One day one realizes that everything is as it should be.” Osho

 

Primal Mirror

As children we develop a series of false identities or masks in response to the expectations and projections of those we depend on for survival. Over time these become autonomous and start to run our lives. We move between them with little or no awareness, triggered by external events.

Wounding happens when we are not seen and loved unconditionally as children. The wounded child is a powerful and convincing identification which can keep us stuck in defense mode and, when we are triggered, we start to live out our childhood movie.
We can learn to recognize and accept this when it is happening and, instead of remaining stuck, begin to heal the inner child by giving it the love and reassurance it needs – from our own adult resources.

Reclaiming and healing the inner child allows us to regain the spontaneous joy and wonder of life. It is the essential journey of life to become a child again healed, whole and awake.

“Parents, because of their own investment – business, politics, religion, philosophy – are less interested in the potential of the child. They are more interested in how to mold the child so that he fits in their world, becomes respectable in their world, is not an outcast, is not a misfit. All this arises out of good intentions, but the result is not good. It is almost slaughtering the child, destroying, killing him. Most of his potential will always remain only potential. He will never be even aware what treasures he has brought with his life. He will die and those treasures will remain unopened.” Osho.