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Conscious Relating Session

When we abandon our true selves in order to keep the affections of the other, we do so in the expectation of getting something in return. This is a recipe for misunderstanding and resentment.

“Immature people falling in love destroy each other’s freedom, create a bondage, make a prison. Mature persons in love help each other to be free, they help each other to destroy all sorts of bondages. And when love flows with freedom there is beauty.” Osho

 

From childhood our self-responsibility is usurped and replaced with a sense of responsibility for others and their feelings, and we lose connection with our spontaneous natural being. Our love relationships in later life reflect this, becoming a set of mutual compromises that feed our illusions of security and permanence. This kind of relationship may appear to work well in terms of success in the world, but once the honeymoon is over, the question arises for many “Is this all there is?”

A really alive relating, based on an overflow of being-love is an ongoing expansion of awareness and freedom. Unless we are growing in this way our love will stagnate and become a prison.

By deeply accepting ourselves and the other as we are, we transform the irritations and petty grievances of life into opportunities for growth. We become aware of our own blind spots – the places where we have yet to shine light on our unconscious habits and expectations.

In an atmosphere of trust and acceptance this session will support you to move to a state of presence in the here and now. You will experience the confidence and self-trust this brings and discover ways of communicating that enhance growth and freedom in your relating.

“Love happens only when you are mature. You become capable of loving only when you are a grown-up. When you know that love is not a need but an overflow – being-love or gift-love – then you give without any conditions.” Osho

This session is open to individuals and couples.

 

Opening to Self-Love

If you totally accepted yourself just as you are, without changing anything, would you have any problems?

“In self-love you will start becoming more and more relaxed. A person who loves himself is totally relaxed.” Osho

 
Opening to Self-Love helps us confront the beliefs and fears that stop us from being loving and compassionate to ourselves and to others.
When we focus awareness on the mechanisms of self-rejection, they start to fade away. This allows us to open to our unique beauty, to rediscover our essential value; to open up to positive, loving relationships with others.

The Opening to Self-Love process is based on individual, paired and group exercises, designed to bring our inner critics into the light of awareness. Our approach is light-hearted and loving so that the energy tied up in negativity can be gently released into creativity.
Group sharing allows us to see that we all have similar beliefs that get in the way of our self-acceptance and to see that we are all sensitive, human, and worthy of love.

When we open up to loving ourselves we find that our meditation deepens and happens more easily.

“The more you love yourself, the less you will find of the self in you, and then it becomes a great meditation, a great leap into God.” Osho